The abuser will apologise today and after a few days batter their victim physically or emotionally and soon apologise again. This becomes a vicious cycle, without the victim being aware.
That is why at times victims of abuse are seen happy with their partners, so when details of abuse emerge, their stories of abuse are doubted and criticised by society.
A close friend of Ndlovu told mourners at her funeral that Ndlovu was often told "to go home and fix things with her husband" when she attempted to report the violence. The calamity of gender-based violence is exacerbated by a sleeping justice system that is disconnected to the reality of gender-based violence challenges.
Our laws on domestic violence may be world class, but there is disconnect in that most women may be unaware of the legal mechanisms in place. Or perhaps the problem is a proliferation of laws and no change in societal culture?
This may be true. I have seen how men who do horrible things to women are often aided by other men, even women. Good men and women become bystanders and onlookers, when they are aware of violence against women.
They sit back and do nothing. They do not want to be involved, because it's not their problem or it is too messy.
It is that which must also change.