Marriage, like any other type of relationship between two flawed adults, is not easy. It takes a lot of deliberate work to maintain it. Notice the phrase, “deliberate work”, because nothing automatically falls into place.

You don’t just fall out of love, or develop separate interests in marriage unbeknownst to you overnight. You get there deliberately and gradually – often by taking excessive interest in stuff that’s to your exclusive interest or that doesn’t benefit the relationship. It’s unwise to plant a garden and rely on the rain to water it, and not even remove the weeds from time to time...