We often consult with couples, generally in dating relationships rather than marriage, where one partner is a freeloader. Could be that they’ve moved in together, and one doesn’t contribute anything towards the rent or even groceries.

One of the worst cases that came our way is of one lady whose boyfriend asked her for the lobola money and promised to pay it back – but never did. Not only that, he was driving around with her car and staying in her house. On numerous occasions, he even claimed part ownership of her catering business – until she invited us for intervention. Although they have a child together, they’re no longer a couple...