It is disheartening that August 9 cannot be a day where we fully embrace women without talking about men. As men, not only do we kill women, rape women and abuse women physically and emotionally, we even steal their shine. We become the main topic on a day where we are supposed to be cheerleading and celebrating women, especially black women.  

Even the president’s speech on Women’s Day shone the spotlight on how men are the real problem behind gender-based violence (GBV). Not that this was a new revelation, only if President Cyril Ramaphosa and his team were regular readers of this newspaper and column, they would know that we have been singing this song for many years now.  ..