JESSICA Alba hated the idea of getting married.

JESSICA Alba hated the idea of getting married.

The Valentine's Day star took a while before agreeing to tie the knot with Cash Warren since she was determined not to "obey" her husband and feels the tradition of marriage has been "warped".

Alba - who has a 19-month-old daughter, Honor Marie, with Cash - said: "I had a hard time agreeing to marriage at all because I feel like it's been warped. Originally it was two families coming together to make a stronger family.

"It was about survival - not love or soul mates. And now the way they market marriage is that it's all about Prince Charming sweeping you off your feet.

"There's this mentality that you need the big dress and the big day - the day every girl gets to be a princess.

"I didn't agree with any of that.

"This tradition of obeying your husband as if he's your king? It's a load of crap. Love and honour, yes. But you should love and honour yourself, too, and your friends."

The 28-year-old actress - who married Cash in May 2008 - eventually accepted his proposal because she knew they would stick together through "thick and thin".

She told Cosmopolitan magazine: "I chose to get married because, essentially, you're given a deck of cards in life.

"The hand you were dealt is your family and you can't choose them.

"But the one person you can choose to bring into your life as your family and to have that unconditional love with is your husband or wife.

"I'm choosing you [Cash Warren] as my family and we're going to love each other through thick and thin."