Slow walk to commitment

About 18 months ago my boyfriend broke-up with me. We had been living together for three years and had a few problems but nothing that could not be solved.

About 18 months ago my boyfriend broke-up with me. We had been living together for three years and had a few problems but nothing that could not be solved.

He moved out of our home and within days he was seeing someone else. I was devastated and cried for months.

I did not see him for 10 months after the break-up. Then he arrived one day and asked if we could be friends.

He said he really missed me and was sorry about the way he had treated me. We started spending some time together, but nothing serious.

Two months ago he broke up with the other woman. Within a week of that we were having sex again and it was as good as it had always been.

He keeps telling me that he made a terrible mistake by leaving and keeps begging me to forgive him and give it another go. He wants to move in again. What should I do?

Once Bitten, Yeoville

Whoa, sister, put on the brakes and slow down before you start running with this man again.

Sure, there is a good chance he has learnt his lesson, but there is also a chance that he will do the same thing when the going gets tough again, and it will.

Instead of welcoming him back into the home he could not wait to escape from a while back, tell him that you want to keep things the way they are until you can be absolutely sure that he is faithful to you.

Date him for at least a year before you think of letting him set up home with you again.

Don't let desperation force you into a bad choice.

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