I feel very lonely and want to leave my big family

I AM 15 years old and have two younger brothers. My aunt and uncle passed away a year ago, so their three children live with us and our granny. Even though I live in such a big family, I feel very lonely and left out.

Am I being unfair? Is there something wrong with me? I feel as if I should run away. Unhappy, Horizon

Dudu says:

There is nothing wrong with you and your feelings are completely valid.

I am sure that everyone in your family has feelings similar to yours at different times. It must have been such a big adjustment for all of you, but this is what families do for each other.

When times are tough they pull together and it is never easy. I have no doubt that a lot more responsibility has been placed on your shoulders and you might feel that you haven't got a chance to enjoy yourself as a teenager. But in most families there are structures to ensure that everyone pulls their weight.

You cannot expect your mother and father to do all the work in the home. Try and work out a plan with them so everyone does their fair share in the home.

This will allow you to concentrate on your school work and spend time with your friends.

Running away from home would be a very risky and dangerous thing for you to do and you would probably end up living on the streets.

Treat your life with great care. It might not be easy at present, but as you grow and complete your education your circumstances will change.

You must also never doubt that your parents love you even if they don't have as much time for you as they once had.