I hope you can give me some real advice about a relationship.

I hope you can give me some real advice about a relationship.

I am in love with the father of my child and we are about to get married, but my problem is that I don't trust him with all my heart. I feel unsure about him all the time.

I live in Johannesburg and he lives in Durban.

He knows very well that I don't trust him. He keeps telling me how much he loves me and always tells me that he will never cheat on me, but I still don't believe him. His family loves me and a part of me believes that he loves me, but I am not sure. I want to believe that he really does love me as much as he says.

Please advise.

Insecure, Johannesburg

Sister, pull yourself together before you chase this man away with your silly insecurities.

You do not mention why you don't trust him, so I have to presume that it is because you have a problem trusting, and not because he has cheated on you or done anything to make you mistrust him.

Stop this insecurity and doubt right now before you chase him into the arms of a woman who will gladly welcome his love.