A Belgian man is pulling the plug on his 19-year marriage after he found out his wife was born a man.
"I feel I've been assaulted," Jan, whose last name was not provided, told the Het Nieuwsblad newspaper of learning about his bride’s past, according to the Telegraph.
“I thought she was an attractive woman -- all woman. She had no male traits."
The 64-year-old met Monica from Indonesia when she worked as an au pair for his family nearly 20 years ago.
The couple decided not to have kids, because Jan had two children from a previous marriage.
He said Monica duped him by using sanitary napkins while pretending to menstruate.
"Even during sex, I never noticed anything," he said.
It wasn’t until Monica got a new full-time job, Jan said, that he saw another side of his wife. She started going to nightclubs and Jan said he also caught her sending suspicious messages to other men.
Then rumours started that she was born a man, and he confronted her.
"I pushed her against the wall and said: 'Now I know the truth. Are you a man?' She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on.
“My world collapsed. That evening came to blows. The police came,” Jan said.
He says he is now receiving psychiatric treatment.
Liliane Verjauw, Jan’s lawyer, said his client was “scammed”.
“The children, who for years have lived with her, are devastated.”
The courts have rejected his attempt to get an annulment of the marriage, which Jan is demanding. So he may need to seek a divorce, or remain with his spouse.