Though I love her, I wonder whether I should leave her.

I AM 26 years old and in love with a 19-year-old woman. She had a child when she was 16 and we have been in love for two years.

I have tried several times to talk to her about having our own child. She told me her doctor said that her tubes were blocked.

I have suggested that we go to a specialist, but she says she is scared or she is too busy.

She is studying and I know that between that and her child she has very little time, but I just feel this is so important that she should make the time.

Though I love her I wonder whether I should leave her.

Please help me. - Want a child, Sebokeng

DUDU OFFERS THIS ADVICE:

You feel that your love is not fulfilled because you do not have a child with your girlfriend.

She might be making excuses because she does not know how to tell you that she is not ready to have another child yet.

You mention that she is studying and her baby is only three years old. Raising a child involves a lot of things and it can be very demanding, especially on the mother.

Your girlfriend is still very young and if you love her you should consider having another child in a few years time when she is older and has achieved some of her goals in life.

You must talk to her and reassure her that she has nothing to fear. For her general health she should consult a doctor, but she must not be forced into having another child until she is ready.

If you love her enough you will wait until she is ready to have more children.