I AM 25 years old and my wife is 21. We have been married for a year. In the beginning, life was wonderful, but as time goes by, we seem to fight and disagree about everything.

Sometimes I really resent her and I am starting to wonder whether I made a mistake by marrying her.

We have a long way to go and I can not see myself living with her for the rest of my life.

She doesn't seem to like my family and moans about them for no reason. I am also not allowed to spend time with my friends because she gets upset with me and sulks for days.

I honestly do not know what to do, please help me. Unhappy Husband, Johannesburg

Dudu says:

Sit down with your wife and explain to her that you feel there is a problem in your marriage. Tell her you are concerned because you love her.

Ask her to tell you what is upsetting her. There could be something else that you are not aware of that makes her unhappy.

You were married at a young age and both of you must realise that as you mature, you should expect changes in each other. You have to learn to accept these changes and remember no one is perfect.

You have to make allowances for each other's shortcomings. Marriage is hard work and in the beginning it can be difficult to adjust to each others' ways.

Don't give up so easily even if times do look dark and hopeless.

Most peoples' marriages go through rough patches.

The answer is to find ways to communicate and to be honest and open with each other.