CONFESSION BOX: Abuse as child haunts

I have been with my boyfriend for two years. The problem is that he is not aware of some of the difficulties I have experienced in my life.

I know that I should be completely honest but I am scared that if he knows the truth he will leave me.

I was abused at a young age and I never told anyone or got any medical help.

A few years before I met him my life was so horrible I tried to commit suicide a number of times. The last time I was in hospital the doctor diagnosed me with depression because of the trauma I went through.

I've been taking pills for depression since.

His family doesn't like me much so if they knew my history they might think I am crazy. I love him so much but the guilt is killing me.

Scared, Soweto

I am sorry that you have suffered so much. If your boyfriend truly loves you he will accept you just the way you are.

Depression is nothing to be ashamed of. You should be proud for having the courage to overcome your past and move forward.

Anyone who thinks you are crazy because you take medication for depression is ignorant about it.

If he won' t accept you as you are then perhaps he is not the man you think he is and you deserve better than that.

If you need to talk to someone contact the SA Depression and Anxiety Group on 011-262-6396.