My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. I love her and believe she loves me too.

I recently heard a rumour that she had an abortion and the baby was the result of an affair with another man. I find this hard to believe because we spend so much time together.

It has put so many doubts in my mind because now I remember a time a while back when she avoided me and didn't want to have sex with me.

She has picked up that I am behaving differently but I cannot help it. It has made me suspicious of her. How did she know the baby belonged to someone else? If she did not know for sure, then why did she not discuss this with me?

I would never have agreed to an abortion; and if she did not want the baby then I would have taken it. How do I sort this out?

Suspicious, Diepkloof, Soweto

The only way to sort this out is to speak to your girlfriend directly. It is always dangerous listening to gossip. You need to tell her what you have heard and ask her if there is any truth in the rumour. If the rumours are true then you will have to decide how you want to deal with your relationship going forward. Remember, trust and communication are the foundation of a successful relationship.