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CONFESSION BOX: Is it 'friends' or a romance?

JOINED AT THE HIP: Not everyone is as generous as Oprah Winfrey to her best friend Gayle King photo: mathew imaging/filmagic
JOINED AT THE HIP: Not everyone is as generous as Oprah Winfrey to her best friend Gayle King photo: mathew imaging/filmagic

I live and work in Johannesburg. A few years ago, a friend and I had a "friends with benefits" relationship that lasted for four months.

The problem is that I fell in love with him and when he ended our fling and started dating another woman, it broke my heart.

I was so devastated that I quit my job and moved back home for a while.

I have now moved back to Johannesburg, found a job and am getting my life back together.

I have seen my "friend" quite a few times since my return and we are great friends again.

We are both single and a few weeks ago we slept together again. This has left me so confused.

I don't have feelings for him anymore, but I also don't want to end up the way I did last time and have my heart broken.

Scared, Mondeor

I AM sure you are both a bit wiser but, once again, you have crossed the line from friends to lovers.

The only option is for you to have a frank and honest talk with him to find out where you stand and what you can expect from him.

Is it "friends with benefits" again, or is it a romance? If it doesn't work out, will you still be friends?

Even though you say you have no romantic feelings towards him, are you being completely honest? You were left devastated and heartbroken the last time. Are you willing to put yourself through that again?

Perhaps it would be wiser for the two of you to just be friends and open your life up to meeting new people.

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