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9 reasons why men say NO to sex

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When it comes to sex, articles/researchers always assume it's the WOMEN who do not want sex as much as their partners. Well, that's what we always thought - but that's not the case. Well not anymore, anyway.

With more coffee-table talks amongst our fellow female circles than we can count, we have realised that there are many women out there suffering with sexual frustration. Not even a surprise lingerie look with all the bells and whistles could peak his interest..

Here are some insights from the conversations with the girls, and some research we've done on the net as to why some men say 'not tonight honey'.

1) The man is stressed, honey

Your man has had a rough day, or week - OR even a long month. He has spent all those days making sure that everyone is doing their jobs like they should - or his boss is making sure he is doing his job like he should. Either way, this man is wondering whether he should quit or stay and take the crap. The last thing he wants is to make sure you are doing YOUR job in the bedroom - or you making sure he is doing HIS job in the bedroom.

2) He just wants to gas

He had lots of coke, beer or junk food and he probably just wants to gas it out comfortably - so the last thing he wants to do is try and hold it all in when you guys are busy.

3) He is exhausted

Okay, after you just ROFLd, let's get a bit serious. If he not too stressed, he may still be exhausted from a long day at work. He probably loved doing his job, but it required lots of mental or physical work.

4) You are too forward

He thinks you are really sexy but he loves to be in charge. The moment you take the reigns, he falls behind. He cannot entertain the thought of you taking charge. It turns him off.

5) You are too rigid

On the other hand, he may not like to have sex with you because you are too rigid. He wants to just let loose and enjoy the moment, but you are too self conscious or you just expect that man to do everything. This may also refer to point number 3. He may be exhausted already.

6) Blame the porn

Pornography is generally believed to add sparks to the bedroom, or kitchen, or wherever you guys fancy a great session - but sometimes it may be responsible for quite the opposite.

“When porn becomes addictive,” says Les Parrott, PhD, a Seattle-based psychologist and the author of Crazy Good Sex, “a man relies on it to become stimulated instead of relying on his spouse.” He explains that the neurochemicals flooding a man’s brain during a porn fix (also called “eroto-chemicals” by psychologists) can create a cocktail in the body that researchers believe may be as addictive as cocaine.

The problem? “Studies have shown that porn fuels unrealistic expectations about what sex should be like,” says Dr. Parrott. “It makes men less satisfied with their partners.”

7) The puzzle pieces do not fit

Sometimes it is just the case of the sex positions. He likes it one way, you like the other. What works for him, does not work for you. He gives up on trying because it's just too much work.

8) He is watching TV

He says he is busy watching soccer, or a movie, or something clearly very interesting on TV. He will take that rain check when the show on TV is over.

9) It's a medical problem.

We won't go into that. But if all the above is not the case, take him to the doctor.

Share your reasons with us. Educate the ladies.

sources: womansday.com, besthealthmag.ca; enotalone.com

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