Booze leads to dangerous, casual sex
AS THE party season gets under way, many people will be socialising more and possibly enjoying a drink or two. Studies show that people are likely to drink three times more alcohol during the festive season compared to on regular nights out.
AVOID THIS: Getting drunk is asking for trouble. Usually, booze and sex is a powerful combination that frequently leaves women with more than they bargained for.
According to Dr Rodney Smith, a gynecologist, people who come to him for issues of unprotected sex are often at their highest in January.
He says most women who visit him had an "accident" during the party season because of contraception failure or unprotected sex. He says there is a massive demand for the so-called morning-after pill.
Smiths says more teenagers become pregnant in December and January than at any other month of the year and sexually transmitted diseases also escalate at this time of the year.
"It is common for people to have sex with someone they just met after drinking alcohol at a party over the festive season. More than one-third of people I see at this time admit that theywouldn't have had sex if they were sober," Smith says.
He says alcohol is a testosterone stimulant and the effect it has on women is based upon the fact that testosterone is not the dominant hormone in the female make-up. Therefore, they are usually unable to control the effect of testosterone as men do on a daily or even hourly, basis.
"Women become more intoxicated than men after drinking the same amount of alcohol, even when differences in body weight are taken into account. This is because women's bodies have proportionately less water.
"Dealing with the bravado that testosterone produces is not a common experience to women and they rarely know how to cope with it. That is why most women become out of control after drinking alcohol. Alcohol may cause women to ignore or miss cues that an assault is likely and they might not realise that their friendly behaviour is perceived as seduction," he says.
Vusi Shabalala, a clinical psychologist, says men feel more powerful, sexual and aggressive after drinking alcohol.
"Expectancies have power of their own, independent of any genuine physiological processes. When people expect a certain outcome, they tend to act in ways that enhance the likelihood that the outcome will occur. For example, if a man feels powerful after drinking alcohol, then he is more likely to assert his viewpoints forcefully and to end up in a verbal or physical argument," Smith says.
He says studies show that men who have been drinking alcohol feel sexually aroused and are more responsive to erotic stimuli and rape scenarios.
He says many studies show that men are more likely than women to interpret a variety of verbal and nonverbal cues as evidence that a woman is interested in sex. He says alcohol may cause men to interpret or reinterpret a woman's behaviour as a sign of her desire to have sex - in a way that fits his initial hypothesis.
He says men frequently feel justified in forcing sex on women who they believe have been leading them on.
How to be safe this festive season:
- Stock up on contraception
If you use a daily contraception such as the pill, make sure you have enough to last over Christmas, especially if you're going away.
To avoid forgetting your contraception if you go away, put it on your list of things to pack and leave a note for yourself at the front door or set a reminder on your phone
- Stock up on condoms
Keep some condoms with you. They're the only form of contraception that protects against both pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Condoms are useful to have in case you have sex with someone new or if your regular method of contraception fails or runs out.
Vomiting can reduce the effectiveness of the pill. If you're sick, use a condom to make sure you're protected against pregnancy.
- Know where to get emergency contraception
Emergency contraception can prevent pregnancy if you have had unprotected sex or your regular contraception has failed. The morning after pill is for use in an emergency. Don't rely on it as a regular method of contraception. It does not work as well as regular methods of contraception at stopping unintended pregnancies.
- Don't drink on an empty stomach
Eating a meal (preferably with carbohydrates like bread or pasta) before you start drinking will work to slow down the effects of alcohol.
Make soft drinks part of your celebration. If orange juice or cola doesn't cut it, then get some fresh fruit smoothies or ask for a virgin cocktail at the bar.
- What's the rush? An expensive wine, quality beer or sophisticated spirit is best savoured rather than downed, so sip slowly and alternate alcohol with soft drinks to see celebrations through to the early hours. - additional info www.nhs.uk
ayobaness
no we cant do that, you cant eat a sweet inside its plastic coverthat thingy is very nice without a condom especially when u r drunk
i dont really enjoy it with a condom thats why we use deppo
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TjoVtjo
@ AyobanessI hope you feel the same when you catch something nasty.... plus your most likely not going to find anything to use against that. No deppo won't help.
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candilious
No ways woman should know their drinking level irrespective if its festive its a k@K story as jy jags is is jy jags. We all drink but we do not plaster our koekies infront of our heads. Its just an exuse.If you party hard you should have reliable friends to look out for you. These are prosties that carries on like this. And mostly woman who seek attention to get sloshed and f*ucked at the same time is jags.......plain en simple@ayobaness- Not really sure what you on girl. Are you nuts
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edna
Please open your eyes Ayobaness..... Youth is dying!Eish this pic...no wonder i don't wanna touch alcohol.
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ayobaness
guys have u had how nice that thingy is?especially if its pitch black , fat nd long
ooh my gosh so appetising
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SifisoHadebe
No wonder they call it the silly season.Some people start acting like a heathen!
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tswagae
@Ayobanessspoken like a true Sfebe shame. U should be ashamed of urself, what about STI and all of those things. Sis, I wonda who's ur man. U sound like the type of girls who are willing to give it all up without protection for booze. U r a disgrace sister, ur minute of pleasure can turn into a lifetime nightmare.Watch out ngwana.
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ayobaness
@tswagaem happy coz i know all the men m sleeping with
wena u claim to be a sweet chocolate nd
unfortunately you are the ones who die of these deseases
coz u think u r a little pumpkin
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