He has two children with two different women and apparently a third woman is pregnant with his child..
I AM a 25-year-old woman and I haven't been in a relationship for a year and a half.
My last relationship ended badly and I was left terribly hurt. It made me very wary of getting involved again.
A few months ago I met a man whom I have strong feelings for.
He has a lot of problems, though. He has two children with two different women and apparently a third woman is pregnant with his child.
He is living with her, but says this is only until the baby is born. After that he will move out and start afresh with me.
He is so charming and loving that I am tempted to go along with this, but something tells me that I must be careful.
I have a good job and he has asked me for financial help to pay his bills a few times.
I have helped him, but he hasn't tried to repay me the money he owes me.
When I asked, he said I must understand that he has to look after his children and life is difficult for him.
I really like him, but my friends say he is using me and will hurt me. I don't know what to do. - Ready for love, Sebokeng
ADVICE FROM DEAR DUDU
Intuition is that small voice inside your head that gives you the feeling that you should be careful. It says don't go there, this person is dodgy, you shouldn't be doing something, you are in danger. Sometimes we ignore these feelings and things turn out badly for us.
When you say you "are tempted to go on seeing him, but something tells you to be careful" - this is your intuition warning you.
You have been hurt terribly in the past so don't put yourself in a situation where in all likelihood this will happen again.
He has two children with two different women and another on the way with a third woman.
He is battling financially and you are probably not the only person he borrows money from.
Do you really want to get involved in such a complicated mess?
He won't be able to give you the time and stability that you need to have a healthy relationship. He is also reckless and irresponsible with his life and that of others.
He will not treat you any different.
Relationships are hard enough without the added complication of three other women and their children.
Listen to your intuition and your friends, who obviously have your best interests at heart.
You are a young, successful woman so don't ever settle for anything less than you deserve.
Will this charmer also hurt me?
He has two children with two different women and apparently a third woman is pregnant with his child..
I AM a 25-year-old woman and I haven't been in a relationship for a year and a half.
My last relationship ended badly and I was left terribly hurt. It made me very wary of getting involved again.
A few months ago I met a man whom I have strong feelings for.
He has a lot of problems, though. He has two children with two different women and apparently a third woman is pregnant with his child.
He is living with her, but says this is only until the baby is born. After that he will move out and start afresh with me.
He is so charming and loving that I am tempted to go along with this, but something tells me that I must be careful.
I have a good job and he has asked me for financial help to pay his bills a few times.
I have helped him, but he hasn't tried to repay me the money he owes me.
When I asked, he said I must understand that he has to look after his children and life is difficult for him.
I really like him, but my friends say he is using me and will hurt me. I don't know what to do. - Ready for love, Sebokeng
ADVICE FROM DEAR DUDU
Intuition is that small voice inside your head that gives you the feeling that you should be careful. It says don't go there, this person is dodgy, you shouldn't be doing something, you are in danger. Sometimes we ignore these feelings and things turn out badly for us.
When you say you "are tempted to go on seeing him, but something tells you to be careful" - this is your intuition warning you.
You have been hurt terribly in the past so don't put yourself in a situation where in all likelihood this will happen again.
He has two children with two different women and another on the way with a third woman.
He is battling financially and you are probably not the only person he borrows money from.
Do you really want to get involved in such a complicated mess?
He won't be able to give you the time and stability that you need to have a healthy relationship. He is also reckless and irresponsible with his life and that of others.
He will not treat you any different.
Relationships are hard enough without the added complication of three other women and their children.
Listen to your intuition and your friends, who obviously have your best interests at heart.
You are a young, successful woman so don't ever settle for anything less than you deserve.
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