I WAS pregnant when my husband and I were involved in a car accident and I lost both my husband and unborn baby.

This happened seven months ago.

He was such a wonderful person and we had only been married a short while.

If only the baby had survived, I would at least have had something. But I lost everything.

I feel as if I cannot carry on and I don't think I will ever be happy again. I had everything a woman could wish for and it was ripped away from me so cruelly.

I wonder if life will ever be worth living again.

Though my family and friends try hard to look after me I just cannot pick myself up.

I am sure they are getting sick and tired of me. Will I ever feel better? Sad and Desperate, Johannesburg

Dudu says:

You have suffered such horrific trauma that it is no surprise you are struggling to overcome it.

Firstly, you should consider consulting a doctor.

You are obviously suffering from serious depression and might need medical help to overcome this.

You should also ask the doctor to refer you to a counselor. Speak to your family and friends and explain to them that you are going to a doctor to get help to cope with your feelings.

Ask them to be patient and to give you the time you need to recover.

There is no time limit for grief and it is different for everyone.

You will never fully recover, but you will find a way to live with your loss.

I am sure that, given time, you will heal and you be happy again.