The problem arose when the man started getting gravely ill. His financial fortunes diminished and he even resigned from his job.
His family was out of sight and out of mind when he methodically went through his pension payout, ravaging with endless parties and reckless spending. A fool and his money... it was all gone in a year.
Broke and bothered, he began to get ill again and eventually succumbed to his death on the bed of his latest nyatsi.
He returned to his family home in a coffin.
The two-roomed home he had left his young bride in decades ago was now a decent four-bedroom home, built on the sweat of the wife.
The two children he had left at three and six years old, were now 33 and 36.
The children pleaded with the mother to allow their father to be buried with dignity. After all it would be a huge embarrassment to the family to disown him in death, they said. The ancestors would turn their backs on them if they did not welcome him back home.
Now independent, the two children told their mom they would carry the costs of the funeral. But to the woman who took on the responsibility of putting a roof over their heads and a plate of food on the table, it was a huge cross to bear to bury a man who rejected his own family when the sun shone brightly in his face.
With huge pressure from family and elders, she relented. She was the one who now had to sit on the mattress as widows do and observe the cultural rituals aimed at getting his spirit to find peace.
So many black families have experienced the indignity and embarrassment of men who had gone out to seek fortunes only to return home to be buried. Cold, mangled and of no use to their families as corpses, their sins and the sufferings they have bestowed on their wives and children have to be sadly buried with them.