Every couple is either doing something that draws them closer together, or is causing them to drift apart. Every day we make choices about which of these two paths we take.

As we grow in our careers, families and life passions, it becomes easy to give them a lot of attention — often to the detriment of our spouses. Finding middle ground between “too hot” and “too cold” is not easy, but it’s the indispensable ingredient of a healthy marriage...