I live in Pretoria and when my boyfriend moved to Pietermaritzburg he broke up with me. I was devastated.

He has a new girlfriend and we haven't seen each other for a long time.

He sometimes sends me a message asking how I am. He has started sending me messages saying that he still loves me and wants me back.

I told him that I didn't think it was a good idea and he started arguing with me.

I do still love him. Should I give him another chance?

Hopeful, Tembisa

If your ex still has a girlfriend and lives in Pietermaritzburg, then it is not a good idea to consider getting back with him.

I know it is difficult for you because you still have feelings for him, but you cannot put your life on hold for him any longer.

He needs to make a decision about who he wants to be with and where he wants to live. If he really loves you he will move closer and only be with you.

He is not treating you as he should and he cannot expect you to put your life on hold until he decides what he wants.