My man carries condoms and hugs other women

I have been dating my man for about five years. I have two children from my late husband and twins from him.

I have been dating my man for about five years. I have two children from my late husband and twins from him.

I know he loves me but the problem is that he has many friends and every weekend he wants to be out with them.

When I go out with him women hug him and it is as though I am not present. This is one reason why I no longer trust him. He has betrayed me many times, but always denies it. When he goes out he returns long after midnight.

Please give me advice. How do I get back the trust, especially after seeing him with condoms more than once.

Betrayed, Johannesburg

Sister, I would also have trust issues if my man walked around with condoms that he wasn't using with me. And my trust issues would become major if other women hugged him and he did nothing to stop them.

It is time to have a long talk. Tell him that he is a father and has responsibilities towards his twins and you.

He should stop behaving like a single man and immediately make it clear to everyone he meets that he is in a relationship and is not available for hugs or any physical affection.

If he can't do this for you he is not worth keeping. If he can't be a loving, faithful partner, then he does not deserve to have you in his life.

I would ask him about the condoms, the women who hug him, how he knows them and why he does not tell them to stop hugging him. I would ask him if these women know he has a partner, why he carries condoms when he is going out and why he carries them when he is not with you?

You say he has betrayed you many times. I suspect he is a flirt and a joller who can't settle down the way you want him to. I suspect he is going to break your heart.

If he doesn't change, give him the boot before he gives you heartache - and possibly and a nasty sexual disease.

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