Alex Matlala

Alex Matlala

If you thought women were the only victims of spousal abuse you are mistaken.

This became evident when Edward Mahomela, 51, of Lebowakgomo, Limpopo, was kicked out of his home when he caught his wife having sex with another man.

Mahomela, a father of four, was arrested for allegedly calling his wife, Ivy MamorakaMahomela, names.

Mahomela said that he caught his wife having sex with a man near his house.

He was on his way to buy bread at about 8pm when he heard moans and groans and decided to investigate.

"When I looked closer I found a man leaning over my wife against a fence," Mahomela said this week. "He was bonking her."

He said when the two realised he had caught them in the act his wife ran away and left her lover behind.

"I told the man I was not going to fight with him," he said. "I told him all I needed was to see them in action in order to have proof."

He said he and his wife had been married for 14 years.

Mahomela said he had never had any problems with his wife over the past 17 years since they started living together.

"The problem only started after she got a job in Polokwane," he claimed. "Since thenshe is short-tempered every time I try to speak to her.

"She sometimes even questions my integrity as head of the family."

He said that he slapped his wife once when he questioned her about the adultery.

"I became agitated when she told me that I was incompetent and called me all sorts of names," Mahomela said.

He said his wife laid an assault charge against him and he was arrested.

"I was later granted R500 bail, but when I got home I was surprised that she had summoned the police, who claimed she had obtained a protection order that prohibited me from setting foot in my own house."

Several attempts to get comment from the woman on her cellphone were unsuccessful.

But a source close to the woman told Sowetan that she ignored the calls because she expected her husband to contact her.

Rebecca Letsoalo of the Love Life Centre in Lenyenye said yesterday that men abuse is common, but that many men find it difficult to speak about it.

Letsoalo said: "Mahomela's situation highlights the fact that there are men who are abused by their spouses, but who choose to remain silent."