I have a problem that I cannot talk to anyone about, except someone anonymous, like you.

I have a problem that I cannot talk to anyone about, except someone anonymous, like you.

Ever since I was a teenager (I am now in my early 20s), I have had fantasies about having sex with my aunt, and even a few about my own mother.

I have other fantasies as well - about women I meet and about movie stars and singers, but the ones about my aunt and my mother are particularly arousing and I indulge in them when I satisfy myself. I think part of the turn-on is that I know this is wrong and taboo.

I have always found older women sexy, and I think that is part of the problem.

I enjoy the fantasies, but there is a lot of guilt involved and I wonder if I am normal?

Ashamed, Johannesburg.

Sexual fantasies of all sorts are not unusual, for men and women. So there is nothing abnormal about having them. For most people, it is the "naughty" part of the fantasy that provides a kick. Some women, for example, who are totally heterosexual, will have fantasies about lesbian sex without ever indulging the fantasy.

Just because you dream or fantasise about rape or incest does not make you a rapist.

Sexual fantasies should stay in your head and should not be allowed to go anywhere else.