I am having such trouble with my 14-year-old son. I have a suspicion that he might be using drugs and I know for a fact that he drinks.

I am having such trouble with my 14-year-old son. I have a suspicion that he might be using drugs and I know for a fact that he drinks.

When I confront him he acts as if he is the parent and I am the child. I am starting to feel scared of him.

I have been hiding most of it from my husband because I know that if he finds out he will go mad.

Please help me.

Scared, Daveyton

You should not try to cope with your son on your own. You must tell your husband everything because you need his support now.

Discuss this calmly with your husband and also try to get the school involved. Your son needs help to get his life on track.

His body is definitely going through physical and emotional changes and there are so many pressures on children today. If he needs counselling, seek help from a teacher, the church or through the hospital.

Please discuss this with your husband because your child's future is at risk.