My jealous boyfriend is driving me mad. He tries to check the messages on my cellphone. If I don't answer when he calls, he suspects that I am with a man. He has even started coming to my workplace unexpectedly. I love him very much and don't want to lose him, but I can't accept his behaviour. I have never cheated or given him reason to think that I like someone else. How can I get him to stop this?

My jealous boyfriend is driving me mad. He tries to check the messages on my cellphone. If I don't answer when he calls, he suspects that I am with a man. He has even started coming to my workplace unexpectedly. I love him very much and don't want to lose him, but I can't accept his behaviour. I have never cheated or given him reason to think that I like someone else. How can I get him to stop this?

TO, Mamelodi

Your boyfriend's jealousy might be a result of a past relationship where someone cheated or lied to him. He is insecure. Talk honestly to him. Tell him that you find it very difficult to cope with his jealousy. Tell him that you love him and will never cheat on or lie to him. Tell him that you will be by his side until he overcomes his insecurities.