I am a woman of 28 living with my fiance of six years and our four-year-old daughter.

I am a woman of 28 living with my fiance of six years and our four-year-old daughter.

I am pregnant again, but the relationship is no longer any good. I had a fight with him about his sister at the end of June and since then he has not spoken to me. I tried to sort it out by involving his family, together with the sister, but only made things worse. He now comes home at midnight without any explanation. Our daughter always asks where he is.

I also asked his best friend to help, but he couldn't.

I am so stressed that I can't concentrate at work. I am also worried about the baby. I love him, but I am not the kind of person who begs. Your advice will be appreciated.

Anonymous, Bedfordview

Sister, this problem must be sorted out because you cannot carry this kind of stress and worry while you are pregnant. Tell the sister you are sorry. Nothing else. Just sorry. No explanations.

Then tell your man you are sorry. And mean it. Tell him that you love him and that you want him in your life. Tell him the stress is harming you and the baby. No need to beg. If it does not help, let him sulk. Ignore him and get on with your life. No good harming yourself or the baby.