I have been friends with a woman for years. She has a boyfriend and I have a girlfriend.

I have been friends with a woman for years. She has a boyfriend and I have a girlfriend.

She phones me almost every day and my girlfriend is worried.

We sometimes spend weekends together, sharing one bed, kissing and romancing. But we have never had sex.

She says she enjoys every second we spend together. I really love her and don't know how to tell her because I am in a relationship. And I believe she loves me too.

Confused, Pretoria

The first thing is to be honest with your girlfriend. I do not blame her for getting upset about your phone calls from a woman you share a bed with and kiss and cuddle. People committed to one another would get upset.

The truth is that you love this woman, and she loves you. Both of you are cheating, even if you are not yet having sex. Two people are going to be hurt by the dishonesty - your girlfriend and her boyfriend.

Be honest and do the right thing. Both of you must end your relationships immediately so you can hook up without guilt or you must be adult enough to know you can no longer see one another like this .

If you truly love one another, find the courage to live your convictions instead of causing hurt.