Sex dreams reveal a lot about you
Although no one will readily admit to it, the fact is that everyone has had sex dreams at some point in their lives.
The nature of the dreams can be exciting, like dreaming of getting your favourite celebrity into the sack.
But the dreams can sometimes take an embarrassing turn, like dreaming of having sex with your boss, or worse, your partner's best friend!
Some people believe that dreams carry significant meanings in our lives, so could the type of sex dreams we have also reveal a lot to us?
Sexologist Elvis Munatswa says dreams could actually highlight something that we are consciously trying to suppress.
"In trying to understand why people have sexual dreams or any dreams in general, various models have been proposed.
"One of these is called the neuro-structural model of dreaming in which the instinctual motor brain plays a pivotal role in generating dream images.
"In this model, sexual experiences constitute one of the typical dream themes that are shared by most people, even within diverse ethnic settings.
"According to the neuro-structural model of dreaming, the unconscious forces its way into the conscious during dreaming. Dreamers therefore, have no ethical bonds and act out their repressed instinctual impulses.
They then have sexual dreams," says Munatswa.
He says a 2011 study found that at least 50% of adults have sex dreams at least once a year, and that about 18% of them have sex dreams at least six times a year.
Munatswa asserts that the study may not fully encompass the correct demographics though, as some people are bound by culture not to disclose such information.
"Different cultures put weight on such dreams differently and therefore make it difficult for anyone across cultures to know for sure how often it happens, and when they know, slightly exaggerate the frequency depending on what's acceptable in one's culture," Munatswa says.
Munatswa says it was discovered that a whopping 80% of people that have sex dreams do actually have an orgasm.
The dream consists of normal patterns of arousal, including kissing, foreplay, vaginal/ anal penetration, and in other instances, no penetration but use of objects or toys with a known person.
We put different sex dream scenarios to Munatswa for him to decode
He came up with some rather surprising results:
Dreaming about having sex with a total stranger
This is quite unusual. People often have erotic dreams about a person they are familiar with, maybe a teacher, neighbour, friend, a cousin, etc.
When one has erotic dreams about a stranger, it's usually fantasy over someone they've just met. The dream includes a lot of imagination of how things could be. In fact, this presents a sort of fetish and it's quite uncommon.
Dreaming about sex with a celebrity
On the surface it could just be that you're crazily attracted to this particular person and wondering what it would be like to sleep with him/her. More often than not, though, it can symbolise a craving for attention, either socially or from your partner. Oddly, it could also be a positive side effect from engaging in more me-time.
Dreaming about sex with your partner
If you dream of your partner, it's usually an indicator that your relationship is very strong.
It can be a sign that you're becoming more aware of some quality in your partner. For example, if you dream that your guy is being very dominant, it suggests that having your guy in a position of power (making decisions) turns you on.
But if you're having issues (especially sexual ones), these may pop up in your dreams too, as in, you wake up just as the sex is heating up, indicating that you may be holding back from fully expressing yourself with him.
Dreaming about sex with many people at once
The dream can mean that you feel as if you are being taken advantage of in life. Maybe you feel like you aren't heard, or no one cares about what you want. It may also mean that you feel like you have troubles coming at you from all sides.
Dreaming about sex with a colleague or a friend
Often these are about taking control of a situation. They can reflect a power struggle between you and a colleague, and aren't actually about sex. Your sleeping mind gives you some control through having sex the way you want it.