Is 'afterglow' a fact or myth? - Puzzling sex queries answered
AS MUCH as sex is no longer a taboo subject, we all have some sex topics that still make us blush, and secretly hope someone braver than us would broach those subjects so we may get some answers of our own.
We can have an open relationship with our loved ones and friends but, let's face it, there are just some things you cannot discuss for fear of embarrassment.
We decided to bring all those uncomfortable questions you may have been curious about out into the light, and let the experts tackle them for us instead.
Elijah Padi is a relationship expert and author, while Godivah is a sex therapist who teaches couples about how to have better sex.
WHY DO SOME MEN FALL ASLEEP IMMEDIATELY AFTER SEX?
Padi: "During the lead-up to orgasm, men produce a hormone called dopamine in great surges (dopamine is a feel-good hormone), and immediately after orgasm the brain releases proclactin, which is a hormone associated with sleep. That is what causes him to fall asleep."
WHAT IS THE AVERAGE TIME FOR ONE ROUND, AND WHAT IS CONSIDERED TOO MUCH?
Godivah: "Good time for one round is the time it takes for the woman to orgasm. After that, a break to rejuvenate is called for. Stopping sex before the woman has orgasmed at least once is premature."
Padi: "A normal sex round lasts longer than two minutes and not less than that. However, people can go longer if they use certain foreplay techniques. Longer than 30 minutes can be abnormal as women tend to get dry and end up not enjoying the experience."
WHY IS 'WOMAN-ON- TOP' MOST MEN'S FAVOURITE SEXUAL POSITION?
Padi: "It's actually pretty simple. Men's brains are stimulated by pictures, so having a woman on top allows them to have a full picture of their woman and this helps to stimulate them."
WHY DO MOST WOMEN WANT TO CUDDLE AFTER SEX?
Padi: "After sex, women release a hormone called oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone and makes one have the sensation of wanting to bond. Women are relational creatures."
WHY DO SOME PEOPLE PEE DURING SEX?
Godivah: "Some people do pee during sex because of excitement. It is completely natural and it happens despite the biological forces in place to stop that."
IS IT TRUE THAT WHAT MEN EAT DETERMINES THE TASTE OF THEIR SEMEN?
Godivah: "Fruit, especially Papaya and Paw Paw, give our sex juices the sweetest flavour.
"Alcohol and fried food, on the other hand, give a sour flavour to semen and vaginal juices."
DO MEN MASTURBATE AT WORK?
Padi: "Men masturbate in general. There is, however, normal and abnormal masturbation.
"Usually, when a man is masturbating at work or other public places, he may be suffering from a sexual disorder like paraphilic disorder."
WHY DO WE MAKE SOUNDS DURING SEX?
Godivah: "Being vocal about any pleasure increases the sensation. It's natural to go 'Mmmmmmm ...' after a delicious piece of cake, and to squeal with excitement when you meet up with a loving friend.
"It's easier and more natural to be vocal during love-making."
IS 'AFTERGLOW' A FACT OR MYTH?
Godivah: "Afterglow is the very real, very attractive glow we have after a wonderful sexual experience.
"It is the sexual energy of the other person that attaches itself to us during sex that carries a positive or negative feeling that no bath can wash off."
DOES 'IMBIZA' REALLY IMPROVE LIBIDO?
Godivah: "There is no evidence to support this.
"All medicine improves the body if it is not poison, because of the strong 'placebo' effect, which is the mind telling the body it is better. Up to 50% of healing in all medicine is attributed to the Placebo Effect. So if a man believes it increases his libido, it probably will."
CAN YOU PASS OUT FROM AN ORGASM?
Godivah: "Falling asleep after intense orgasm is normal. Yes, you can even pass out as the brain is robbed of its blood supply."
HOW LONG DOES AN ORGASM GENERALLY LAST?
Godivah: "Orgasm can be as quick as a sneeze or as long as an hour, but the latter requires some training."