5 ways to know that you're a Xmas 'booty call'

You should know that you're not first priority. They treat you like you're the one, and you certainly enjoy the benefits but you are not number 1.

We get the friends with benefits part. We know that long-term friendships could step into a pleasure phase to help each other out when needed - and we get the side-chick phase too when a man needs a woman on the side to bring out the smiles and release the tension. Do you? Do you know when are you being used or when you are the one?

If you have been caught into one of these, you may not even know it.

You don't know that you've been labelled as a 'friend with benefits' or a 'side-chick', because in your mind, you feel that someone wants you and loves you.

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But in either case, you should know that you're not first priority. They treat you like you're the one, and you certainly enjoy the benefits but you are not number 1.

This makes you his 'booty call'.

Here are signs that will help indicate that he really has not found the 'one' with you. You are just a booty call.

Five ways to know you are a booty call

You get a call during odd hours: A call after 9pm means nothing but pleasure time. If he is a potential 'Mr Right', he would call you in the morning, and/or during the day also - but when he only rings you at odd hours of the night, you might be considered as a 'booty call' in his eyes.

That awkward text: When he sends you that hi… type of text and what follows is 'what are you up to? and 'what are you wearing?' Know that he is thinking of you next to him and having a moment of pleasure. This message often comes from people who text you only when they need you. At that moment they only want you for their benefits. Also these texts don't come through religiously every day. It will be random and oddly timed.

You never get to meet his people: He does not introduce you to his friends, family or hang out with you around people he is close with. He will not invite you to his Christmas lunches and brunches. He will not take you on a holiday. He will not invite you to his family home for dinner. You always meet behind closed doors and it's always timed. He will also never accept your invitations to any of your get-togethers either.

Never talks about future plans with you or about the relationship:  You are never in the loop when it comes to important things. You don’t know what he wants. He does not even mention his plans for the next year, let alone the next day.

He doesn’t cuddle after sex: After that steamy sex, he moves right along to the next thing - like dressing up to go home. He thanks you for the great time but has no time to kiss and be romantic.

 

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