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CONFESSION BOX: Sister's new man a worry

My sister and I have always been close. There is only a year's age difference between us.

I have been married for three years and she was engaged for two. Unfortunately, her fiancé died in a car accident. She was devastated and I was there whenever she needed me. It has taken a long time for her to start feeling strong again and positive about life.

Six months ago she met a man and has been seeing him since. He is just so wrong for her. I hardly see her anymore because she is always with him. He seems to be very jealous and apparently does not want to meet any of the family yet.

I have told my sister that this makes me feel uncomfortable and I don't understand why he is behaving like this. She said that he is shy and wants to first see where the relationship goes before meeting us.

I think he has something to hide and he is trying to keep her to himself. I hate not having my sister and my best friend in my life. What should I do?

Worried, KwaMhlanga

I am sorry to hear your sister has experienced such trauma in her life and I can understand why you want to protect her.

As hard as it will be, you need to let your sister find her own way in life. It is only natural that you want to protect her but you can't.

She is a grown woman and has to make her own choices. She might make mistakes but she can't live in a state of fear.

Perhaps her boyfriend is being cautious and will meet the family in his own time. There is nothing wrong with that and it doesn't mean he has anything to hide.

Phone your sister regularly and see her when you can but don't get involved in her personal life.

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