Could Bobbi have gone the same way of Peaches? Was she so curious that she tried to kill herself just like her mother?

There are two scents that remind me of my mother every time I catch a whiff of them. The scents of Jik and warm bread: the former because of the work she used to do and bread because, as far back as I can remember, she would always come back from work with a loaf of warm, unsliced bread. The smell would come wafting out of her purse and somehow it clung around her and mingled with the Jik smell until they made up a unique scent of mom. 

She’s also very strong; she taught me how to be considerate and kind to others and she showed me love. She started me on the journey of being the strong woman I’m becoming.  She has her faults, she has made many mistakes, we do fight over things, she wants me to do this and I want to do that. I tell her I’m grown up now; she says I’m still a child.

In my teens, I tried to copy that walk and the way she’d open her big eyes and look at me, and I’d tell her everything I did wrong and tried to hide. I never got that walk right, eventually I gave up and carried on in my normal clopping tornado speed, of one foot in front of the other and running to wherever I’m going.

Peaches Geldof and her mom. Getty images

But for the longest time, I wanted to be just like my mother and I’m sure at some point most girls feel the same. But how much do you want to be like your mother? Even in death?  This is what came to mind when I heard that Peaches Geldof, the daughter of Bob Geldof and Paula Yates from rock band INXS was found dead, sprawled on the bed in an apparent drug overdose, months after she’d been declared sober. The scary thing was: she died in the exact manner her mother did.

Now I cannot fathom what it is like to have a famous mom, everybody knowing who she is, everywhere you go people shouting her name. The mere sight of her making people cry, I don’t know about you but I’d think my mom was special if that happened to her, I probably would have asked a thousand times if she were some kind of princess.

So it’s understandable how as a child you would ask yourself how someone so special, so loved, could die.

There were reports at the time that Peaches had become obsessed with the way her mom died; she’d been trying to understand how she died.  Did she take the same amount of drugs her mom did to see how she had died? Did she want to die like her mother so she would feel closer to her? We will never know. What we do know is she left her little kids with questions just like she and her sisters were.

The decorated coffin carrying Peaches Geldof arrives at her funeral. Getty images

Three years ago, Whitney Houston was found face down in a bathtub in an apparent drug overdose. The world mourned the loss of great talent, fast forward to the present and her daughter is found in the same manner she was, two weeks before her death anniversary. This could be an eerie coincidence and as all reports indicate, foul play is suspected. But when I heard about it, I was shocked. Could Bobbi have gone the same way of Peaches? Was she so curious that she tried to kill herself just like her mother?

But the latest I hear is that her husband, who is not her husband, is being suspected of having a hand in everything. Suspicion was also cast towards her friend, who was charged with drug possession, the whole thing is a bit of a mess.

But these two women got me thinking, just like I used to try copy my mother’s walk, did they also try to find something of their mother’s they could emulate?

An attendee holds up the funeral program at the funeral of Bobbi Kristina Brown at the St. James United Methodist Church. Picture credit: WireImage

If that is the case, it is sad. But I’m only speaking from the view point of a daughter of a non-famous mother and I’m not speaking on behalf of all daughters.

Some girls get family recipes, some get handed empires, others want nothing to do with their mothers, while others inherit that pesky problem of becoming hippy after a certain age, and others inherit a legacy of adoring fans and substance abuse.

It makes me think hard about what I will leave for my future kids.