There is a bestseller out there called How to Make Babies and Not Take Care of Them.

I am saying this because every time I happen to be in an exhaling session with the girls and the topic of problematic baby daddies is discussed, it is clear all these useless and often spiteful men have taken a chapter from the book.

Their stories, excuses and devious actions are exactly the same, and since they were not born of the same mother they must have learned it from this book, sold exclusively to members of the deadbeat dad society.

There are five despicable habits of problematic baby daddies.

First, they promise their children the world and its private jets and are not bothered when they do not deliver on their promises.

A realistic dad will promise his child a trip to Spur with five friends for a birthday, because he knows that is what he can and should deliver.

But not baby daddy. He will tell your child he is going to buy him the latest iPhone and take him to Cape Town. On the child's birthday, he will call and say he is out of town and promise again to make it up to them later.

It's so heartbreaking to watch children being hurt time and time again until their soft skulls start to absorb the devious nature of their deadbeat dads.

Second, baby daddies prefer to buy wants rather than needs - like the latest cellphone or the most expensive branded clothes - while you're cringing and thinking that you could have used that R1500 to buy more practical stuff like groceries or pay school fees.

Third, a baby daddy will leave his kid waiting by the school gate. When it is time to pick her up, he will lie to her the whole day, promising that he is only a few kilometres away. Until the sun sets and the dejected child figures out that he is no longer coming.

Fourth, on the weekends designated to spend time with their children, baby daddies find some other more pressing social or business event they need to attend. They fetch their children and dump them with relatives. They do not see the value of this rare weekend they are given as an opportunity to bond with their kids.

Fifth, one cannot trust them with bills. Whether it is school fees or medical aid, problematic baby daddies do not pay.

They know fairly well that their baby mamas care about their children and will end up taking over the unpaid bills.

But as much as our communities are littered with baby daddies who are shirking their responsibilities, this Sunday is about all the wonderful fathers who care for their children. It is a tribute to all the fathers who know the names of their children's teachers and attend all their school activities because it is a duty of love to do so.

To all the dads who rush to the emergency room when their kids are in distress. To the great dads who go on road trips and holidays with their children to teach them about life and to make timeless memories.

And to those who take their kids to soccer lessons and ballet classes.

To fathers who refuse to drive expensive German sedans and drink pricey single malts when they do not pay school fees or ignore maintenance orders.

To fathers who bathe their children, read them books, help them with homework and teach them how to pray.

If you are that kind of dad, Father's Day is a tribute to you. Father's Day celebrates dads who protect, love and provide for their children.

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