I'm depressed over lost job and unwanted baby

I AM 22 years old. Last October I lost my boyfriend and my job on the same day. Shortly after that I suspected I might be pregnant and my suspicions were confirmed by a pregnancy test.

The doctor said I was eight weeks pregnant.

I was so worried because I did not know how I was going to support a baby. I could not sleep or eat and at times I thought seriously about killing myself.

All my family live in KwaZulu-Natal and I am in Johannesburg, so I had no one to turn to. My mom and dad would have been furious had they known I was pregnant.

A few weeks ago l started bleeding. I went to the hospital and was told that I had miscarried.

A few weeks later, I bled again. I feel so alone and I am unable to sleep. I feel guilty because I did not want the baby and now I wish I had it.

How does a person kill the pain? There are no tablets for the pain I have and I can no longer cope.

Desperate, Orange Grove

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You have been through a very traumatic time on your own and I am sorry that you have suffered so much.

Unfortunately you are right, there are no tablets to cure heartache.

The first thing you need to do is return to the doctor for a check-up to ensure that you are physically healthy.

You should consider discussing with your doctor the depression you are going through and the fact that you cannot sleep .

This is also the time to reach out to your family. Be honest with them and tell them exactly what you have been through. Your parents might be disappointed, but I am sure they will offer you the support you need to get through this difficult time.