Pregnant and left in the lurch

I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for 11 months. I am 18 and he is 24.

I fell pregnant four months ago and when I told him, he insisted that I have an abortion. I refused because it is against my religion and also because I am too scared. I have not seen him since the day I told him about the pregnancy. How could he just leave me?

I don't even know where to start looking for him because he never took me to his home.

Perhaps I should have had the abortion, then I wouldn't be in this mess. I feel so angry with myself for being such a fool. I don't know what to do. Please Dudu, advise me. - Unhappy, Katlehong

 

DEAR DUDU REPLIES:

I am sorry that this man has treated you so badly. He is a coward and you have every right to feel angry and disappointed.

You cannot force him to be involved with his child but he certainly does have to give you maintenance.

Your priority now is to look after yourself and the baby. You must inform your family and ask for their support.

You never mentioned whether you are still at school but if you are, you must ensure that this does not disrupt your education.

I am sure you are feeling very afraid of the future, but you will get through this.

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