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I'm worried our families will oppose our love

By unknown | May 14, 2010 | COMMENTS [ 0 ]

I AM 18 years old and I need advice.

I AM 18 years old and I need advice.

My sister is engaged to a man whose family has always been close to ours.

My problem is that I have fallen in love with my sister's fiancé's brother. We have been friends until recently and he has told me that he has strong feelings for me. He is also vey scared about how his family will react if he should tell them.

He is known as a player and I know that my parents don't particularly like him because of his reputation. We have discussed moving to another city, but we are still studying.

I told my sister and she is furious. She says that I am trying to ruin her life and that if I pursue this, she will never speak to me again. She has threatened to tell our parents and she says they too would never forgive me.

I am devastated by her reaction.

Is there anything wrong with this? There isn't any law against this, is there? How can we make our families accept our love for each other?

Lovelorn, Robertsham

The last thing that the two of you should do is alienate your families. Legally and morally, there is no reason why you shouldn't have a relationship.

You need to sit down with your sister when she is calm and ask her to explain why she reacted the way she did.

Listen to each other and discuss this without getting emotional.

If she has a valid reason to oppose the relationship, then think carefully about moving forward with the relationship.

The fact that your parents do not like him is not a good sign and perhaps you should listen to what they are saying.

Don't even think about moving away from your families because you will definitely infuriate both sides. Neither of you are financially stable so it would be difficult to manage. Consider remaining friends.

Once you both have completed your studies and are independent, then you can take your friendship to the next level. Under no circumstances should you cause a rift in your family because they are the ones who will always love and support you.


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