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I am 33 and have been married for eight years. My husband is very good-looking and charming, has a good job and money to spend. We have lived a good and blessed life together.
Two years into our marriage, he had an affair. My sister saw him with another woman. I confronted him, he admitted it and the affair ended. Well, at least I think it did.
A few months later, we had an argument and in a moment of anger he admitted that he visited prostitutes when he is away on business. He said they give him what I can't - namely uncomplicated and uninhibited sex. It was a very cruel thing to say, but I accepted it and tried to change in the bedroom. I became more free and open and more experimental. I thought I was satisfying him.
A few months ago we had another huge fight and he told me he still goes to prostitutes. This time it didn't make me angry out of jealousy, but rather out of fear about the danger to which we have both been exposed. I asked him if he always uses condoms and his response was "most times". I asked if he has been tested for HIV-Aids and he said he could not be bothered.
Since then I have not been able to have sex with him. I am convinced he has HIV and I am terrified I will get it too. He refuses to go for a test and I am too scared.
What should I do?
Living In Fear, Roodepoort
Sister, get over your fear right now and go for an HIV test TODAY. Not tomorrow. What he does is his business. Your life is your business.
You do not mention whether either of you is showing any signs of disturbing illness, so I presume you are not. Good.
But that does not mean you are in the clear. The only way to know is to go for the test. Go now.
He won't do anything, sister, so it is up to you to do the right thing. Do it NOW. Please.