My boyfriend has been accused of having a child with some chick, but he says he never slept with her.

My boyfriend has been accused of having a child with some chick, but he says he never slept with her.

Now we have asked the woman for a paternity test to be done, but she always gives us stories and reasons why she can't make it.

What can we do to force her to have the paternity test done so that we can move on with our lives? She keeps telling people in our community that my boyfriend is the father of the child.

I think this woman has a problem because she had a crush on my boyfriend a long time ago and he didn't take any notice of her. Now she is punishing him.

Please help.

Trying To Move On, Mamelodi

Sister, I have three words of advice for you: ignore this woman.

And ignore those who are feeding into her claims.

Stop allowing her to get to you and stop allowing her to create tension in your relationship.

If you believe your man, that is all that matters.

The fact that this woman seems to be reluctant to go through a test to determine paternity might indicate that she knows the result will not prove her claims. She might realise that her lie has backfired on her.

However, if she does agree to the test, do not be devastated if it shows that your boyfriend is the liar, and not her.

If that is the case, then thank her for showing your man up to be a con who runs from his responsibilities.

If your man is the father, then why would you want to stay with a liar who fathers children and runs?

If he is not a liar, then she will be shown to be a jealous meddler and you can move on and make a wonderful life with your man.