Parents shouldn't feel guilty when a younger child whines: "It's not fair. Why can't I stay up until 9:30pm like Johnny?"
Fairness has nothing to do with it. Susie is younger and needs more sleep. It's as simple as that, and parents must never give in.
Besides, when she is finally allowed to stay up it will seem a real privilege to Susie.
Many parents feel that to be fair they must treat their children equally. But it's simply not possible.
When Susie has a birthday, or is ill, she deserves the presents and special attention. Johnny will recognise the fairness. - Child Development Info