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How to put some zing back into your sex life

Every relationship is bound to go through the sexual blahs now and then. Fortunately, there's a simple fix for when they do.

Every relationship is bound to go through the sexual blahs now and then. Fortunately, there's a simple fix for when they do.

Super slick moves you perfected in college can still melt any woman in the house, but that doesn't mean you can't fortify the foreplay arsenal.

The following suggestions are bound to keep your woman on her toes - and, quite possibly, on her knees.

Watch sexy movies together

While it's true that cetain women won't be receptive to this idea, most will try it at least once.

After all, chicks like dirty movies too, they just don't always admit it.

But keep it neat: you want to turn her on, not send her screaming from the room.

Read her a dirty story

Millions of women read erotic novels. Why? Because dirty books do for her what girlie mags do for you - they turn her on.

Combine that with a sexy male voice and you can probably guess how potent this can be.

Don't worry, we're not talking romance novels, here - we're talking smut. One anthology of erotic short stories is all you need, but be selective. Skim the stories before you buy: you don't want to accidentally purchase something too over the top.

Read to her in bed (or have her read to you) but don't expect to make it through the entire story - she's likely to be sitting astride you before too long.

Give her a full body massage

This is probably the easiest way to turn a woman on. Have her strip as much as possible (preferably to her knickers, at least) and lie face down on the bed.

Being mindful of your weight, straddle her hips and start by running your fingers through her hair. Women love this, so take your time.

Massage her scalp and then move on to her neck and shoulders. Where you go from there is up to you - just take it slow.

As her arousal builds, increase the pressure in your fingers. You don't want to inflict pain but a little rough handling can feel delicious on her shoulders, hips, thighs and bottom.

If you really want to win her over, a slow, sensual foot massage has been known to bring more women to orgasm.

Tie her up

Most women are at least secretly turned on by the idea of being tied up.

Your woman could well be one of them. It's pretty easy, really. Grab something innocuous - a tie, perhaps - and bring it to bed.

While kneeling, slip behind her. Reach around her body and take her wrists into one hand. Hold them firmly. If she doesn't seem alarmed by the sudden restriction, reach for the tie you brought along.

Slowly circle her wrists and watch her reaction. If she's not frightened, keep going. Pull her back against you and explore her body.

Again, do this slowly. Once she knows you'll respect her boundaries, feel free to pick up the pace. You'll know when she's ready - she'll be and moaning.

Feed each other

Food never looked as sexy as it did when Kim Basinger was being fed in the film Nine ½ Weeks. Strawberries, whipped cream and chocolate pudding can be sensuously fed to your woman.

Run a honey-covered finger across her lower lip and watch how quickly she tries to suck it. - www.askmen.com

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