Open letter to South Africa’s students‚ universities and government‚ represented by Minister in the .
My son is 18 and has a job as an apprentice electrician, but he hates it. He says he is learning nothing and that he stands or sits around all day doing and learning nothing.
In the last few months, he has refused to go to work at least one day a week, and sometimes even two or three days in the same week. If he does not work, he does not get paid. The pay is not good and he hardly has any money by pay-day.
He spends his money like there is no tomorrow. After a week there is nothing left and he asks us for R50 to go out nearly every night.
He is rude and aggressive - he punched a hole in his bedroom door last week when I refused to give him money and broke a plate a few days before when his dad told him he could not go out for the evening. If we try to talk to him about his work and his future, he tells us to "get off his case".
I am at the end of my wits. What can we do?
Worried Sick, Johannesburg
So he hates his job. Welcome to the real world, mister, is what I say. How many people on this earth are so blessed as to do a job they really love? The answer is that only a small percentage of people are getting up every morning to go to a job that makes their heart sing. The majority are dragging themselves in every day to do something they tolerate because it pays the bills. And he is not doing that - paying the bills, I mean. The first thing you have to do is to stop giving him money. If he has not got money to go out, tough. Stop letting him control and spoil your days. If he cannot live by your rules, kick him out. If he does not want to live by the rules of the hands that feed him, tell him to leave.