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Estranged hubby's visits confuse me

By unknown | Nov 12, 2007 | COMMENTS [ 0 ]

I have a five-year-old son and my husband of eight years just left us for the woman he has been having an affair with for 18 months.

That was two months ago. He calls every day and visits our son once a week, and has not yet started divorce proceedings.

At first I kept hoping he would come back, but he says he loves her and will marry her when the divorce is finalised.

I am very hurt and am battling not to hate him and let my poisoned emotions spill over to my child. I am battling to be polite to him when he visits and calls, but I think I am going to lose the battle. When I told him this, he said he loves her, but would leave her to be with his family because he can't stand the thought that I might stop him from seeing his son.

I don't understand him. If he loves her so much, how can he think of leaving her? How could he leave me?

Heart sore, Krugersdorp

I think he is the kind of person who tries to please everyone, and lands up hurting everyone instead. My biggest concern is the wellbeing of your child, who does not deserve to become a pawn of the anger that goes with divorce.

If love has died, it is unlikely it can be rekindled. The only thing you can do is to deal with it the best you can.

I suggest that you cut the daily contact with him and tell him that he can see his son on weekends, but that you would prefer it if he fetched your son from your parents' home, or a friend. Stop seeing him and rubbing salt into your wounds.


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