I am a 25-year-old black woman who has been in a relationship with a white man for about a year.

I am a 25-year-old black woman who has been in a relationship with a white man for about a year.

We are very happy together and he is very good to me. Both of our families are happy with our relationship.

It is not always easy because people can still be cruel when they see a mixed couple but this does not worry us at all.

The problem I have is that I feel very insecure. I would like to get married and have children but it is something my partner does not seem to want to discuss.

He always says that we are too young to consider having children and that he has lots to accomplish before he can even think about it.

He is a doctor and though he has his own successful practice, he is still studying further.

I often feel that he does not want to have children because I am black. It would break my heart to leave him but if he won't have children then I must. Am I wrong?

Insecure and Worried

Randburg

It seems to be only you who is making colour an issue.

You are happy together, he is good to you and your families love you both.

Why don't you just enjoy what you have and be thankful.

You should also be together for longer than a year before you think of having children.

He would not be with you if he was uncomfortable with you being black.

Children and marriage are not always security. He is probably planning for your security together by finishing his studies before starting a family.