Dear Sister Sledgehammer
My girlfriend and I have been dating for three years. I live in Johannesburg and she lives in Durban. I have decided to move to KwaZulu-Natal to be with her. I was lucky enough to get a transfer from June.
I worry if I will like working at the Durban office, if my new colleagues will like me, if my girlfriend will enjoy having me close to her, if I will make new friends, if I will miss my family and so on.
I love my girl and I want this to work.
Are my fears real, or am I being silly?
Everyone who moves to another town or country has similar worries, but it is silly to torture yourself in this way.
Your relationship has kept going for a while, and that despite the distance. Your girlfriend wants you with her so use the closeness to take your love to new levels.
Your company believes you are a worthwhile employee and has given you a transfer. I am sure your girlfriend has a circle of friends and you will soon meet new people. Good luck with your new life.