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Try some libidinal creativity

Putting "the moves" on her is an antiquated practice. They are aptly named "the moves" because they're predictable, they're used frequently and girls get tired of them after a while.

Putting "the moves" on her is an antiquated practice. They are aptly named "the moves" because they're predictable, they're used frequently and girls get tired of them after a while.

Once the mystery is over and your moves are foreseeable, your girl is surely on her way to boredom, and she'll stop wanting sex.

Reel her excitement back in by generating heat and curiosity again. Learn to entice instead of "ask" with predetermined, repetitive nonverbal cues.

Establish your true game and initiate sex in surprising, new ways. She might astonish you with her own surprises. Here's how you can initiate sex in new and creative ways:

l Cook for her, then feed her

To a woman, the sight of a man cooking competently is its own aphrodisiac. She is inevitably drawn into the mouth-watering night you are creating for her.

Offer her a glass of wine and let her have a taste of what's to come. Feed her tasty morsels, indulge her lips as well, and give her a little task in the kitchen.

While she is lightly engaged, slide up against her, brush up behind her, place kisses on her neck and cultivate the ultimate in anticipation. Pairing hunger - both physical and sexual - results in a fiery exchange.

l Have a movie slumber night

Instead of just renting a movie together and plopping in front of the couch, why not make an event out of it and have an in-house movie slumber night?

You can watch sexy flicks she'll enjoy and prepare her favourite snacks in advance.

Dress in pyjamas, place a bunch of blankets and pillows in front of the television and promote the ambience of a sleepover party.

Then, while those movies play, play with her as well. Start slowly with non-sexual touches and move on from there.

Chances are those sexy scenes will work their own magic on her and get her into the mood.

The coziness of it all will make her feel comfortable, and being comfortable is necessary for most women to reach orgasm.

l Board games for grownups

When was the last time you played a board game in your underwear? Strip poker is a classic sex game.

Classics are great, but modern sexual board games are novel ways to nudge your girl into a night of fun. You can find these games online and in adult stores.

They can be highly detailed, rich in storyline and plot, have game cards, props, dice, player pieces and descriptive scenarios to add to the excitement. There are a lot, so take your pick, open a bottle of wine and have fun.

l Show her your artistic side

There are temporary tattoos, body paints and crayons you can apply directly on a willing body. The beauty of this activity is that you both need to shed some clothes and touch each other.

The happy ending is a foregone conclusion as you both are almost naked and running your hands up and down a once-blank canvas to apply your own brand of art.

l Take her dancing

Dancing is the ultimate in foreplay. Sweaty and hot, you feel pulsing music resonate and throb through your bodies as she moves in ways that display her inherently sexual nature.

She writhes and gyrates in your arms while her body presses against you. Women love a guy who is not afraid to dance, and they love the entire package of the night out.

She gets to dress in something that scorches the eyes and burns the image into your mind - and those of other men nearby - just be sure it's you she goes home with.

l A shower for two

At the end of the night, pique her interest by joining her in the shower or bath.

Lather her up and linger over curves, tracing patterns along her skin, and touch her without initiating sex. After the shower, offer to massage her favorite lotion into her skin and allow her to relax into your touch as you gradually shift your movements into sensual caresses. She'll be begging for it after all that pampering. - Askmen.com

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