I work with a handsome man and I have fallen in love with him. He is married with kids, but he is a big flirt and teases all the women in our office. He always comments on the way we dress and our new hairstyles. He is the most charming man I have ever met.

Last Friday we all went out for drinks and I had two dances with him. We chatted a lot and after a few drinks I told him how I feel. He said he is flattered, but that he loves his wife and children and is not interested in anything with anyone else.

I am heartbroken. I can't think straight at work. I don't care about his wife and kids. I want him. What should I do?

Lovestruck, Johannesburg

Back off, sister and leave him alone. If you can't do that, get another job.

He was sweet to thank you for your attention and gently point out that his heart belongs to his wife and children.

Why do you want to break up a family and break another woman's heart? You must respect that some families are happy and some men are content in a monogamous marriage.

He is not flirting. He is being kind. You just read his behaviour to suit your evil intentions. Women like you are traitors to a sisterhood in which women accept that men who belong to other women are strictly out of bounds.