It is vital to gauge a guy's personality in the early stages of a relationship to avoid future disappointments. Nomsa Ndamase, a relationship expert, says the first few dates should always be carefree. If there are any signs of distress, chances are the man is a jerk. Guys, to be wary of:
The cheap and stingy dude
He takes a woman out to KFC, orders Streetwise For Two and suggests you go Dutch on the bill. He is obsessed with the words "saving" and "budget".
He never buys a Valentine's or a birthday gift, claiming that Valentine's Day is not African. He makes a girl feel like they're on a tight budget from the very first date. When he takes a woman out and pays, he makes her feel she owes him sex.
Ndamase says this guy is a penny pincher who is not worth your time. Dump him with immediate effect.
He will sing the praises of a woman, but inside he is a money-hungry taker who is dating a woman for her wallet. At first he is handy. He washes your car, take the kids to school and does chores. By the time he is done with you he will own your car. Tread carefully.
Avoid guys who get too physical on the first date. This is a sign that he is a horny man who can't restrain his desires.
Chances are he is a skirt chaser who proposes love to every woman he sees in the street.
Run a mile. He will infect you with an incurable STI. He doesn't hide the fact that he's checking out other women. He flirts with the waitress and brags about his past conquests.
Hide away. He is bad for your self-esteem.
A guy who refuses to use a condom
A man who wants sex without a condom is a death trap. Refusing to use a condom is an indication of his insinceriety. Guys don't get pregnant, so they don't worry about it. When the crunch comes, he will run away.
Guys who talk trash about women
This kind of guy makes no secret of his bitterness toward women. On a date, he can't help but exude negativity toward his companion and the entire female gender by making rude and insulting comments. Ndamase says he is a bruised man who is out to attack. Run away.
Prettier than thou boy
It's one thing to date a hot honey who looks like Pepsi Pokane, but it's quite another to be with someone who makes you feel like a manly cow just by standing next to him.
I'm talking about metrosexual dudes staying in touch with their feminine sides.
They are usually self-absorbed and dandyish. Do not come close to him. You will live a life of insecurity.
The arrogant guy
He has a huge ego and he's condescending. He is also rude - not necessarily to the girlfriend, but to anyone he feels is not as hot as he is. Ndamase says his attitude could be driven by his looks, his wallet or his intellect. Walk right past.
The overly-emotional guy
He is attuned to his emotions and his entire existence and happiness revolve around being with the girlfriend. He is a suffocater and he brings too much pressure to the relationship.
"This kind of guy is not sure about himself and needs constant reassurance about his relationship, work and friendships,"says Ndamase.Call it a day. You do not need this wimp.
The guy who knows it all
This type of guy thinks he's figured out women. He usually has rules and tests for a woman. He turns every conversation into an argument.
Ndamase says guys like this make women feel defensive. You do not need a pastor, you need a boyfriend. Wave bye-bye.
The drug addict
He has the tendency to blow whatever cash he has on drugs. He will destroy himself, you and everything in his path. He has poor hygiene. His socks smell, he does not shave and he pisses in his pants. Do not greet him.