When my fiance and I are alone there are no problems, but when his family is around things are not fine.

When my fiance and I are alone there are no problems, but when his family is around things are not fine.

He expects me to wake up early and prepare their breakfast. I think that if I want to wake up at 10am nothing should stop me. They can prepare their own food. We don't live together. I see him on weekends. We have been together for six years and have a three-year-old daughter.

If I wear something that shows my cleavage, he doesn't approve and says he won't go anywhere with me. I buy my clothing. I told him that he must buy the clothes he wants me to wear when I am with him and that I don't have a problem staying at home instead of going out. Am I wrong?

Independent, Mpumalanga

As far as getting up to cook for relatives is concerned, the polite thing would be to prepare the occasional meal, and I agree that they can also prepare their meals. But I am concerned that you sleep until 10am because who looks after your child?

When it comes to clothing, I think he is being silly if your outfits are not tasteless or completely revealing. Telling him to buy your clothes is just as silly.

You two have a problem communicating your fears and issues so have a good, long talk.