I feel the stress levels experienced by those in the South African Police Service contributes a great deal to affairs and abuse.

I feel the stress levels experienced by those in the South African Police Service contributes a great deal to affairs and abuse.

I was a police officer and I realise that being underpaid and stressed will lead to abuse without the abuser even noticing that it affects loved ones.

Do research before advising someone to end a relationship. Tell them to go for counselling and to sort out the problem.

Remember a child without both parents is not healthy. Couples should go for counselling for the children's sake.

Critical, Diepkloof

Thank you for your letter. One question: if the counselling doesn't help, would you still advise a woman to stay?

At what point should she leave? After the first slap? First punch? First broken limb? Or only when she dies?